by Ego or by Love?

During one Chemistry class, my teacher discussed the principle of codependence where one's happiness is dependent upon the happiness and approval of one's peers or constituents. This is simply equivalent to the social needs indicated by Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

Sir had a valid argument. Why be dependent on others when you can be happy with yourself? Then, it struck me. Can we really do away with codependence? Is it not inevitable that when some people become happy because of what I did, I'll become happy too?

After some time, I concluded that we can't really do away with codependence, but the question is, are we codependent by ego or codependent by love? Codependence becomes detrimental when it is done for one's ego, but I believe that when it is done out of love, codependence becomes enriching. As human beings, it is almost impossible to live in this world alone. We constantly need companionship. We steer away from the path of loneliness because "No man is an island".

Therefore, it is not the act of codependence itself that is vile, pretentious and detrimental. It is the reason for which the act of codependence was done that labels it as positive or negative.

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